Recently I have discovered something called HSP, high sensitive person. The 'scientific' term would be Seonsory-Processing Sensitivity. Now you know I am not a lightheaded person, I shun at Homoeopathy (alternative medicine), Religion and other would-be doctors. But I think I have SPS. http://www.hsperson.com/
It's like the missing piece of the puzzle of my life, there may be more, but this is a really big chunk. The more I learn of this hyper sensitivity, the more I recognize it in myself. From little things I remember in childhood to why I build my life around helping other people. I am greatly affected by the suffering of other people, apparently more than most other humans. And that it is not (just) altruism that is the reason for my volunteer jobs. I now also realize that I have indeed forgotten about myself a little, focusing my life on helping other people, it's the question my gay pastor friend asked me: "Who will save you?" Ultimately I should, even before helping others, but I seem to be unable to help it.
I need to learn how to cope with this, because this is having a negative influence on me and my long-term goals, like school, - which I frequently forget about. I've found some counsellors, but they live in the south of the country and are expensive. A man I contacted (from the south) rang me up with a good proposition of one visit and the rest phone or IM conversations. For a reduced price. I told him I was very pleased at this and would get back to him after seeing my doctor, which I still need to do.
I had plans of going to the doctor earlier, before discovering all this, because I was feeling depressed, burned out, rather often. It seems the only times I am not depressed is when at home resting or when surrounding by human beings, as with my volunteer jobs. My classmates also seem to be the only reason I go to school - which is not really supposed to be the case. So now I think I have some more ammunition to shoot at my doctor, make this case a little bigger and deeper. I hope she (female doctor) understands this problem and won't laugh in my face thinking SPS is a fairy tale. It is for fear of such an experience that I am seeking my childhood homoeopathic doctor (another woman) who now is a real doctor in the same post as my regular doctor. It doesn't matter which I see normally, but this issue might be a little too sensitive for my (favourite) straight-forward doctor; the one I saw for the recent STD test I did.
I'm still in doubt whether to make an issue of seeing a particular doctor or not. I feel like a hypocrite for running to the homoeopath (and) real doctor for a subtle advice, instead of going to my straight-forward real real doctor.
I'll keep you posted. Here are some men.
By the way, I'm totally digging Josh, CF's freshest guy on his Dean's List.
https://mercury.corbinfisher.com/ACMDeansListDetails.aspx?ip=16
I love the kid, he's so cute, smooth and what an ass! Now I need to get him on video...
It's like the missing piece of the puzzle of my life, there may be more, but this is a really big chunk. The more I learn of this hyper sensitivity, the more I recognize it in myself. From little things I remember in childhood to why I build my life around helping other people. I am greatly affected by the suffering of other people, apparently more than most other humans. And that it is not (just) altruism that is the reason for my volunteer jobs. I now also realize that I have indeed forgotten about myself a little, focusing my life on helping other people, it's the question my gay pastor friend asked me: "Who will save you?" Ultimately I should, even before helping others, but I seem to be unable to help it.
I need to learn how to cope with this, because this is having a negative influence on me and my long-term goals, like school, - which I frequently forget about. I've found some counsellors, but they live in the south of the country and are expensive. A man I contacted (from the south) rang me up with a good proposition of one visit and the rest phone or IM conversations. For a reduced price. I told him I was very pleased at this and would get back to him after seeing my doctor, which I still need to do.
I had plans of going to the doctor earlier, before discovering all this, because I was feeling depressed, burned out, rather often. It seems the only times I am not depressed is when at home resting or when surrounding by human beings, as with my volunteer jobs. My classmates also seem to be the only reason I go to school - which is not really supposed to be the case. So now I think I have some more ammunition to shoot at my doctor, make this case a little bigger and deeper. I hope she (female doctor) understands this problem and won't laugh in my face thinking SPS is a fairy tale. It is for fear of such an experience that I am seeking my childhood homoeopathic doctor (another woman) who now is a real doctor in the same post as my regular doctor. It doesn't matter which I see normally, but this issue might be a little too sensitive for my (favourite) straight-forward doctor; the one I saw for the recent STD test I did.
I'm still in doubt whether to make an issue of seeing a particular doctor or not. I feel like a hypocrite for running to the homoeopath (and) real doctor for a subtle advice, instead of going to my straight-forward real real doctor.
I'm curious as to what my two shrinks have to say about this...
I'll keep you posted. Here are some men.
By the way, I'm totally digging Josh, CF's freshest guy on his Dean's List.https://mercury.corbinfisher.com/ACMDeansListDetails.aspx?ip=16
I love the kid, he's so cute, smooth and what an ass! Now I need to get him on video...
3 comments:
I am not aware of this by name.
In Jungian psychology, it is believed all people have four ways in which to interact with other/the world.
The four means are Thinking, Feeling, Sensation, and Intuition. Everyone has some of all four; everyone has one or two as their 'major means' in which to operate.
While the goal is to be as balanced in the four as possible, it is more realistic to recognize which of the four is your 'primary'. Go with it - just try not to have it as your sole means of interaction. If it is too strong, it causes friction. Jungian psychology recognizes the wisdom to strengthen the others so things are more balanced.
So it is not surprising you are a 'Sensitive Person'; something must be your 'primary'. I hope it is not too strong it causes troubles.
I hadn't heard of HSP or SPS before either, and I'm glad Elaine Aron concedes that it's not a pathology.
I concur with Ur-spo's response, and would add Eric Berne's Transactional Analysis as well, which teaches that all adults have an "inner" adult, parent, and child within their personality makeup. Those three traits are not always even or balanced within each individual.
In your case, your inner adult and especially the parent are the most dominant as reflected by your desire to help others so much.
The inner adult or parent only becomes problematic when they interfere with your essential responsibilities and more importantly, your physical and mental well-being.
In other words, and as already indicated, it has to do with balance, which can be attained in a variety of ways--everything from such disciplines as yoga, meditation, and tai chi to medication therapy if necessary.
Ideally I would recommend an integrative therapist that is adept to all of the above and able to at least prescribe anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications if it turns out that's what you need. It has been my experience that "family medicine" physicians and general practioners don't always prescribe the most appropriate med for depression and anxiety that a psychiatrist or medical psychologist otherwise would.
sometimes you're happy,
sometimes you're sad
Some days are good
Others are bad . . .
If at all possible, I wouldn't waste too much time or money on changing yourself.
You seem like balanced enough to pull away from your obsessions when it really gets insane.
And if not, wallow in them for some time, write about it here, and get told off by us readers, who recognise this all too well from our own ongoing experiences.
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